Beware The ‘Agent’

A Psychospiritual Thesis On Manipulative Behaviours

By Jordan MacLire

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Are you emotionally intuitive, a sigma, or a peaceful warrior but still struggling with inconsistent moods and your general health?

Do you feel oppressed and often depressed with cycles and patterns that keep on repeating themselves? Do you wonder why colleagues and trusted people within your circle may seem to turn against you and you are not sure what you have done?

Without sparking an irrational fear in you the reader, your best friend or family member could also be your worst enemy, it could also be you.

Disguised evil comes in many shapes and forms. When it resides within a soul it is quite literally a tangible and very physical means of manipulation. For the sake of this text and because it is culturally relevant we shall call them ‘Agents’ (from ‘The Matrix’ movie). If we are being a bit more playful we could call them schemers, conspirators, exporters or intriguers. Whatever we call them they are far more complex than a simple word. They have complicated layers of deceit, some so deep that in order for their manipulations to come to fruition they often truly believe their own lies.

Now before we delve into this topic, you may ask why I know so much about this and am I qualified in this area enough to give insight and opinion? The answers are yes and a resounding yes.

I have spent tens of thousands of hours studying the psychology of humanity and the psychology of philosophy. I have counselling qualifications (albeit spiritual ones) but none the less insurable and overlapping more clinical cognitive behavioural therapies. I have spent much of my life on a non-religious spiritual path which has also led me to the practice of Shamanism, which again has taken and continues daily to take (with pleasure and gratitude) a serious amount of my time, effort and energy. To be brutally honest, I have also been the Agent. There are no excuses but as a  child and young man I was surrounded at work and at home by abusive people who wanted me not to be me.

It is amazing what we do to survive physical and mental abuse. It is a common practice for the persecuted to find a victim to pass that persecution on to. I have been cheated on and passed on that pain. I have been emotionally bullied and passed it on. Nobody is a Saint, we can try our best and that is all we can do. The one thing I am certain of is that I absolutely will not intentionally abuse my power and manipulate others for personal gain. I have used some forms of manipulation in my spiritual work but only with the consent of clients and in a very controlled manner and mindset. On this note, we must be careful not to point fingers or ostracise those that we think are causing harm. As you will soon see, by shining a light on the Agents, the changes will happen naturally without the need for attacking them with the same negative energy that they thrive upon.

Rest assured, you are in safe hands; but ‘be careful who you trust, salt and sugar look the same’. Not everyone that smiles at you is your friend. Perhaps I can give you some tools that may help you to distinguish the intentions of people who are in your (etheric) space. If you learn to read the signs outwardly and inwardly, life will be a smoother ride, of that I am sure.

Not everyone has finely tuned intuition, I quite often expect people to be able to do what I do and then I remember the time and effort I have put in. Trying to help people make sense of these subtle warning signs is frustrating when my major sensory skill is my intuition. Did you know the established theory that a dogs primary sense is its smell? They use their sight and hearing for confirmation. Humans have 6 million olfactory receptors in our noses, dogs typically have 300 million. When they come across a new smell they will find its source, see it, hear it and then give it a closer sniff to store that scent in their memory.

If my intuitive reading of a human does not match their physical expressions, the words that they say, their tone perceived inclination; I know that they are being dishonest. I am not a mind reader, usually I will just keep them at a safe distance, be polite but put my boundaries up. They may just be having a really bad day after all and I am not their judge and jury. If they are going to be in my etheric space for the foreseeable future and it becomes clear that they are an Agent… I do not give them any energy, I do not feed them with anything but compassion. I still find it is my duty to give people in the surrounding community the tools I believe may help them live their best lives. The phrase ‘you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink’ is my personally mantra in these situations.

Nobody is being forced to read this, you do so on your on accord, take from it what you will…

If you have you ever been introduced to an established circle of friends for the first time it can sometimes be a  daunting experience as the outsider. You are invited by your new neighbour to meet a group of her friends in a local cafe. You are new to the area and although you are happy in your own skin you start to feel irrationally nervous. Will they like me? What should I say? Who is approachable? All very common thoughts we can empathise with. We often rush into quick judgements when we are in stressful situations. Humans have a habit of putting mental labels on new situations, it makes us feel safer when we make familiar the things that feel threatening.

When we are put under pressure out of our usual comfort zone, our attention is usually focussed on the person who is demanding it. Because, let’s face it, you do not want all eyes on you, you’d rather just giggle away at the not so funny obnoxious person who is talking over everyone else.

Never judge anyone on your first impressions. First impressions are not important if you are a rounded individual on a path of wisdom. Any one of the protagonists on that table could have had a bad nights sleep, an argument with their spouse, a sick family member, be in debt; anything is possible so don’t judge them for letting the loud one do all the talking. The Agent (in my experience) will not take long to make themselves known but do not jump to conclusions.

I struggle sometimes when meeting new people. I have spent an awful lot of time learning to read peoples energy. I am so sensitive to other peoples energy that only a decade ago I could not bare to be in a supermarket during busy times of the day. It felt like I was being attacked by bad moods, aggression and lethargy even if my own day was going particularly well.

Give yourself time to settle and then look for consistency. A happy and grounded individual will be relatively consistent in their moods and the way that they treat you. Just give that a thought for a minute and let it settle. Who has this consistent trait in your life? Do you actually have anyone in your life with this trait? I can honestly say that a decade ago I was surrounded by the inconsistent energies of people I was consistently trying to please. After letting them all go (itself not an easy task especially with close family) and after realising that they would not change; my happiness and moods have been more level and consistent than I could have ever dreamed off.

I have witnessed the Agent acting as ‘agent provocateur’. If your primary directive, your training and mission is observation and non-intervention but your (self-appointed) communal role is to help fight injustice and keep a balance of sorts, how can there be no intervention? The answer is actually very simple. Lead them to water but do not drown them in your moral hypocrisy. I have fallen for this trap of thinking ‘I am the more trustworthy and moral so I will judge the world’. Try an approach that is aligned to the sufferers. Instead of helping others for self-enhancement try and do it anonymously and your karma will pay dividends believe me.

The major warning signs of an Agent are:

Manipulative: either directly or through others with some evident satisfaction.

Dishonest: The easy lies that take advantage or get them out of trouble.

Irresponsible: Failing to meet work and financial obligations.

Impulsive: Making big life altering decisions without prior planning. Also prone to outburst of rage or aggression. I have seen this behaviour from Agents at their dogs and even their own children.

Disregard of others: The rights and feelings of others are inconsequential and sometimes openly so and may be admitted in jest (making jokes about their own questionable morals is a common theme).

Remorseless: A constant rationalisation for negative actions. A true belief that they are in the right and others are to blame for the Agents abuse.

They are ‘self-aware’: They may know they function and think differently to others.

They struggle with empathy: Sometimes admittedly. You may witness that they have difficulty making meaningful relationships that are anything other than skin deep, or to further their social position.

They may mistake quiet strength for emotional detachment. This could be the Agent’s chance to fill this supposed weak spot within your energy so you become reliant on them and bend to their whims. I have had a few Agents try and work their dark magic on me with this intent. I must admit I am so accustomed to it now that sometimes I play along just to see how far they are willing to go. It is usually further than you think (or would be comfortable with). I would not advise playing these games with Agents unless you have a strong Will and are well versed in protecting yourself from manipulation.

They may misinterpret your independence for arrogance, you know you are happy in your own skin. You are doing your shadow work and know that you will always be working on yourself. An Agent will see their weakness through your strength and will be threatened by this. Success sparks jealousy and these are the kind of people who will target you. Initially there may offer their services or friendship. You may notice that the people that surround them have absolutely no idea who this Agent really is. You can ‘see’ them. As the quiet observer you know that they are not as they seem.

But how do we remove these people from our lives if they are not going to change?

Everybody changes daily, it makes me smile inside when I bump into a long lost friend who says ‘you haven’t changed a bit’. Our physical body is in constant change. Although it does take 7-10 years, every single cell in our body is replaced. Physically you are completely different to who you were a decade ago. Psychologically (or psychospiritually) you change as well. I have lost and gained many different personality traits over the years. Some take more work to let go of, especially the ones that  give us a feeling of strength even when they could harm others. People can change, it is more a case of whether they feel the need to.

You can’t change Agents and you shouldn’t. Protect yourself from them, learn how to read peoples energy and if they are consistently manipulative, never let your guard down. Do not take anything they say personally. If they say you look ill do not believe them. If they say ‘you’re not a writer, you can’t publish a book’, throw that energy back, say ‘thanks for your support, I’m sure people will read it…’

Always pause for thought when they ask you a question it will blindside them and says ‘you do not control me or this conversation’. Take back your power. We are all just as important as each other. It is not your job to make others happy or to tell them how great they are to gain there support. Some Agents may not know what real love or friendship actually is. Subtle manipulations and mind games are not your playground, be honest with your words and your intentions.

Agents will try to get you in a psychospiritual position where they can do their best damage.

If being around certain people makes you irritable I would advise you to remember that when people trigger us it is usually because we are uncomfortable witnessing the dark sides of them that may also belong within ourselves…

"Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you again”. Matthew 7:1-5. Even the Bible knew that what goes around comes around.

The greatest weapon against deceptive behaviour is a highly vibrational person. They possess a lie detecting ability that is finely tuned to pick up discrepancies in energetic, emotional and physical behaviours. This is not necessarily a learnt skill or ability, but a direct consequence from a life of spiritual work and honing emotional intelligence (not everyone who practices spirituality is emotionally intelligent). Whether they are yogis, energy healers, reiki masters, whatever and however they practice, simply being in this higher vibrational state for a long period of time gives them great power and intuition.

This makes interactions with these spiritual folk (by Agent’s and other deceptor’s that thrive on half-lies and manipulation) very uncomfortable indeed. Any deception or false pretence is made aware in their company and even to other onlookers who may have been deceived otherwise. In this sense, the mere presence or arrival of a highly vibrational person is the catalyst for change; the torch in the dark that illuminates our issues, not just the Agents but everybody’s.

This is why we find some people intimidating but essentially honest. If you try to lie to these souls, you will stumble over your words or feel inexplicably nervous. The seeming innocence of their kind questions have the potential to unravel an Agents lies but in a way where the Agent will confess themselves. They do  not have to ask the tough questions but are capable of doing so with compassion, without any fierce energy behind their words. This honest compassion is dishonesties’ kryptonite.

If you are an Agent, I highly recommend not attacking one of these spiritual beings. The karmic lessons will come hard and fast. You will not be destroyed but your life (and this version of your ego) will be forced to change very quickly in order for quick and hard lessons to be learnt. This karmic rebound will attack you personally, it will happen whether your innocent target knows you are attacking them or not. We all suffer karma but highly vibrational people work with it daily, they have a natural defence and a strong understanding of the karmic system. They have the ability to speed the process of karma in order to move through its lessons without stagnation and repetition.

As uncomfortable as this can feel, try to see it as a unique opportunity for growth and honesty. By removing our deceptive public facades we can start to work on and love what lies beneath them. I have come across these light bringers before and they often feel dark and light at the same time, they often feel deep because we may be shallow. If you spend long enough in reciprocal mentorship with them, if you do the work and it becomes your way of being; you will also gain the superpower to balance the energy of others around you, without any effort or loss of your own.

If you have read this, can see this behaviour in yourself and want some help to stop it then please reach out to a health care professional or if you are more spiritually inclined a holistic therapist or counsellor will help you get to the roots of the problem.

I still see parts of the Agent within myself from time to time. When you become aware of these behaviours, when you become the ‘witness’ you take away power from that which you observe.

What the world needs now more than ever is transparency.

Good luck on your wisdom journey, peace and love to you all…

And to those I have been brave enough to leave behind: ‘The peace I feel without your presence in my life is worth being the villain in your story’ - Sheldon Cameron

Adios,

Jordan MacLire